Trauma is, we could say, life itself. According to the official definition of trauma – an experience in which a person experiences a real or potential danger to life, or a threat to physical integrity – we come to the conclusion that even the act of birth is a type of trauma. From that moment on, trauma becomes an integral part of life: the hunger and crying of a newborn, separation from the mother, cessation of breastfeeding, and upbringing by parents, who themselves unconsciously transmit their own traumas through transgenerational patterns. The first traumas then continue through adaptation to new environments such as kindergarten and school, all the way to adulthood, in which we often unconsciously repeat the patterns adopted in early childhood – the period from 0-7 years of age, from which we either remember nothing or remember very little. By repeating these patterns, we often recreate well-known traumas with them. Therefore, we can rightly say that our entire life is marked by trauma, whether we have experienced it directly or indirectly (e.g. through the stories of others), whether we were aware of it at the time or not, or whether we have inherited it through generations. Even the most careful and caring parents cannot completely protect a child from trauma, because it, unfortunately, forms part of the fabric of life and shapes each of us. But in addition to these, which probably no one avoids, there are also significantly more intense traumas that can leave deep scars on a person, and these are traumas with a capital T – alcoholism in the family, psychological, physical/sexual abuse in the family or at school, mockery, humiliation, neglect and/or rejection in childhood, ugly divorces, losses of loved ones, losses in disasters, war traumas, etc. which over time give rise to various emotional and physical difficulties. Traumas differ in duration, intensity, frequency, as well as in our defensive abilities, which are almost non-existent in childhood. Every person experiences trauma differently, and the consequences later manifest in many possible symptoms. However, there is no one who has not been literally “moved from their center” through trauma during their life and who has not consequently developed certain defense mechanisms, which today we often call behavioral disorders. Like trauma, the resulting disorders have numerous forms, but they all share a common goal – survival. This universal drive connects all living beings and shapes our behavior, often at the cost of a distorted perception of reality. These “defenses”, our forced compromises become individual windows through which we experience the world, but when they begin to emotionally and healthily endanger ourselves or our relationships with others, then we can say that the consequences of trauma exceed our capacities to cope with life. Such situations require professional help. The goal of therapy then becomes returning to a state as close as possible to our original “center”, before the trauma changed our healthy perception and behavior. If you are finally ready for change, book a free consultation and an agreement for possible cooperation.